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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Confront him before it’s too late.

You have nothing to lose.  Take the high road and you’ll be watching all his stuff go to her kids, and you’ll be begging for th photo albums.

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lol. Yeah, going after the inheritance is definitely the way to rebuild a relationship.[/quote]

OP. So for inheritance, I don’t necessarily care about the money itself. If he chose to leave everything to my siblings and nothing to me, I’d be fine with that because it’s staying in the family and I trust my siblings not to squander it.

But I do have a real problem if he leaves everything to her and her kids. She doesn’t work, so it’s a very real possibility she could convince him to leave her our childhood house so she has a place to stay, leave her money for her kids’ college tuition (they are high school age), etc.

I don’t think that’s unreasonable.

But more importantly, I want to be able to see my dad. I want him to be able to see his grandkids without it being an issue with her. [/quote]

So, you don't necessarily want the money, but you definitely don't want her to have it.

You do realize it isn't your money, right?

You sound incredibly toxic. No doubt this also comes out when you're interacting with her (or not interacting with her).[/quote]

Agree that OP seems to be the one with issues here. OP said, "I’ve always been nice to her. She and I would go out together sometimes, she’s comes to my kids’ parties, and we’ve always been welcoming. That’s the weird thing, it’s not like there was tension or awkwardness. She’s always been welcome and we’ve had fun together."

Then look at her posting just above. Could it be more vindictive?

Sorry, but this is a classic case of an adult daughter who does not want any woman to step into a spousal position with her dear daddy. Especially if that woman (gasp!) dares to have any influence in what happens with/to her own husband and his money.

If you took this story and changed the narrative from a father's wife to OP's husband, and her father had this kind of attitude about OP's spouse, well everyone would be screaming about how wrong it is. How the father should butt out. How the father should realize his daughter was an adult and she and her spouse should make their own decisions without judgment.

But the second it is a woman who is in a proverbial "stepmother" role then all bets are off. Because EVERY woman who marries or has a serious relationship with a man (who has kids) is evil, right? [/quote]

What are you going on about? The duty of a parent to a child (yes, even a fault child) is very different than the dynamic of a child to a parent. [/quote]

The point is ADULTS. Does an adult have the right to choose a partner and make life decisions without seeking input and approval from any other adult - whether is it a parent, adult sibling, adult relative or adult child??[/quote]

DP. You’re deliberately missing the point. [/quote]

No, I'm very clearly getting the point - which is, OP is upset because SHE wants to control her father, control his relationships, and control what he does with his assets/estate. She claims that his GF is doing this but she wants to do the exact same thing![/quote]

+1. It is very clear that's what is going on here. Many of you are just too focused on your own parents' inheritance that you can't see it.[/quote]

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