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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People don't think about you nearly as much as you seem to think they do, OP. What an odd, unrelatable post. What on EARTH are you prattling on about?[/quote]
Lol, found one. [/quote]

Found one what? What the hell are you on about? It's like you think people get what you mean or something.[/quote]

Different PP and we do,  a lot of us REAAALLLLYY do and If you don’t, well… maybe you are one of the type A?

Speaking of, this post struck me because I recognized some of my own tendencies which was both scary and a good wake up call. I went to a posh business school and was surrounded by this dynamic, and I am a somewhat type A with very doting parents. I insulated myself from this mostly by choosing the right career (mission driven) the right husband (think tank and ngo do gooder type), the right neighborhood (hippy ish community).

But sometimes I think I bring that vibe in a group. I am competitive, I like to improve/grow, I am constantly looking for things to work on/learn for myself and my family. It brings me happiness. Which means I also set goals, talk about it, want to enroll my friends in it with me. I thought I was active and energetic and that wanting to help my friends was positive. But I can see how it can be perceived as trying to insert myself in their lives and give too much advice as well as add a competitive / one upping vibe to our group. I also like to have a tight knit group of friends, I don’t like a lot of friendly but superficial relationships. I like to be part of an identifiable crew. Which again can be part of a cliquish tone.

Long story short: your post made me realize that I need to be careful and contain some of my impulses. I think some of my friends think like you and I am not reading them well enough. [/quote]

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