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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I hear you! You are not alone and will find your people…are you interested in any activities that have a higher ratio of men? That may help you to strategically balance the probability of running into these women. Get out of your comfort zone and try something new! 
It seriously has gotten so bad for me that I wonder do I have a bias against women now because 95% of my interactions with women are comparitive and competitive, judgy, a constant power struggle and too much more. It is so exhausting you honestly don’t even want to try to meet new women because you’re literally bracing for what’s to come…or maybe find a gay husband, where do they hang out at? I know it’s stereotypical (and not always the case), but the gay guys I have run into are super funny, outgoing, engaging and they will tighten you up on your style. Lol[/quote]

This is internalized misogyny, and you are giving the gay guys a pass because they are men.

It is exhausting, agreed. This is really hard. If you ask yourself, constantly, what would my reaction be if Diane was Don, it can be both depressing and illuminating. [/quote]
I will look into that…I give them a pass because the ones I have met are fun! And the energy is different…it’s lighter…the smallest things can become so deep with some women.[/quote]

The energy is different and lighter because your expectations of their behavior are lower. They sense it and you sense it, and it changes the dynamic.

Things become deep with women because behavior expectations for women are so harsh and the consequences of violating those social norms are so much worse for women. [/quote]
Interesting perspective, however IMHO, some women tend to over analyze things. People’s lived experiences don’t always need to be explained or rationalized. I think the type of woman that OP is hoping to avoid, tends to see people or certain situations as problems to be solved. We are not allowed to just be.

What makes their energy heavy is the condescension, judgment, unsolicited advice, validation on things that don’t matter to the average person…to me, this is what is very intense and deep. It’s so refreshing to be with people who can go with the flow, everything doesn’t have to fit into a neat little perfect box.[/quote]

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