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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] +1

I make almost 3 times what my husband does, and I know a number of other women in a similar position. We are all the default parents and carry the majority of the mental load.[/quote]

If these women are amenable to outsourcing gift wrapping and tree decorating and Christmas dinner preparing, they should.

I outsource what I don't want on my mental load. People resist this because they [i]want[/i] to wrap gifts. Not everyone does. But it is not uncommon.[/quote]

Or because they think about that money going toward retirement accounts or college funds.[/quote]

OR because they're unwilling to drop the nonessentials to preserve their sanity and resources. [b]Gift wrapping, tree decorating, Christmas dinner preparing... nothing stated in this thread is a need[/b]. [/quote]

Then what is a need?  If you don’t need these things you also could live without a sofa, never go on vacation and eat McDonald’s every night instead of a normal meal.

You sound like a man who takes advantage of female labor and your only defense is to claim it’s all unnecessary make work. As if kids don’t expect presents from Santa. [/quote]

TIL I'm finally a man!  :lol:  :lol:  :lol:

I am, interestingly enough, a person who has gone without a sofa, lived many long years without a vacation, and ate worse than McDonalds many nights. It probably continues to inform my perspective... Maybe it's easier to realize how nice things are because I went for many years without those niceties and I realize they're definitely not needs.[/quote]

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