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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you think if a family member asks to stay at a new mom’s house in the week post partum she’s required to help in some way?

I’m asking because MIL stayed for a week a day after I had our baby and didn’t get me a glass of water, didn’t cook a single meal or help in any way and I thought it was really rude. [/quote]

Oh Jesus can we go for five minutes without bashing a mother in law?  Does anyone have any new material?

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Agree. wtf. Is it not 2025?

Where are the men performing any labor here?

Why does passive football-watching FIL always get a pass?

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In many cases the FIL doesn't come. It's very common for dads and FILs to stay home while their wives travel to the new family, but traditionally this is because she's going to help, not sit around expecting the new mom to wait on her. [/quote]

Oh, I’m aware of that. Time for the FIL to step up is what I’m suggesting.

They can cook a meal and use a dust rag.

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You knew the baby was coming. You should have stocked your freezer and had the house cleaned before the baby came. Did the whole nesting thing pass you by? Why do you need your MIL to do work you should have done before baby?[/quote]

You people are unreal. If you want to understand why we don’t have villages anymore, the above comment perfectly captures it.[/quote]

We don’t have villages because we value our independence and autonomy. So we pay for the help we want and need without the judgment and expectations of family. You all want the good without the bad and its not realistic.[/quote]

I’ll just say, if your response to your daughter or DIL when they are floundering and overwhelmed when their first baby comes is “well you knew the baby was coming, you should have stocked your freezer , didn’t you do that whole nesting thing? Why do you need me to cook for you when you should have done that before the baby came?”, I hope you’re not expecting any visitors in the nursing home. I mean, yikes. [/quote]

If she expects me to be her indentured servant I'd set her straight. My mom nor my MIL came to dust and scrub and I was more than ok with that.[/quote]

You’re such a liar. All you do all day is type out nastiness towards woman. There is no one in your life. [/quote]

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