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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the term was actually intended to describe this exact group: people who were old DC (or at least one spouse is) but largely apolitical. I'm not saying that is what these people are, but the term might not be far off. Here is their profile:

- Wesley Heights/Spring Valley/CCV/Georgetown
- Christ Church (Georgetown)
- Blue Igloo/Little Folks/Little Graces
- Beauvoir
- STA/NCS (but more Holton lately)
- Ivy for smarties/athletes, mid-tier northeast lib arts for the rest, UVA/UNC/Vandy/Duke for Southerners, Sewanee/Trinity for non-academically inclined
- Commercial real estate
- [b]Met Club, Sulgrave, CCC[/b]
- MV, Nantucket, Gibson Island, Jackson Hole, Maine

Did I miss anything?[/quote]

A friend belongs to one of these clubs and was invited to a “meet up” with some other ladies. She arrived and it turned out to be a meeting of women trying to get others to write negative letters about a woman applying for membership. When she asked them why they didn’t like her - none of them could give a concrete answer or example. They didn’t like her because.

This is what you are dealing with. The mean girls in middle school….[/quote]

Sure this happened.  Are you a member of any of them?  Were you there?  Otherwise.  Stfu.

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New poster here. I was involved with membership admittance at a club. No one is blackballing people for the sake of blackballing them or for no reason. What may have happened is a bad rumor may have gotten to one of the ladies (think affair, racist, etc.). WASP protocols dictate that you wouldn't broadcast that sort of thing, especially if it's a rumor someone told you in confidence. They may share it in confidence with someone like me, or someone else senior in the club with varying amounts of detail. Same thing for the young male that another poster mentioned with older folks being  "jealous." These clubs let in good looking young males all the time, what may have happened is one of the older member's daughter's friend at *insert NE boarding school or private school in D.C.* heard that, that "good looking young guy" was rumored to have sexually assaulted a girl after a party (the assault isn't the issue to those guys because boys will be boys but rather that the girl comes from a "good family" with a parent or relative they may know) so they black ball him.

My family is WASP (10+ generations) and educated at NE boarding schools. These circles are tight and small, everyone knows everything about everyone, so if you don't know why, sometimes there's a reason why good applicants may not get in.[/quote]

Wow. Just remarkable, honestly. We’re supposed to believe (with a straight face) that the great American aristocracy, the people who insist they don’t even see class, who float through life on a cloud of Vineyard Vines and inherited equity — are actually running a whisper-campaign intelligence service straight out of John le Carré…for pickleball membership?

Let’s just pause for a moment.

You’re saying...and I want to make sure I have this right, that no one is ever blackballed for no reason. Of course not. Heaven forbid. It’s always because someone heard something from someone else, rumor delivered with the solemnity of a priest giving last rites, whispered at a luncheon, over a tuna salad, by someone who “can’t say more.” And somehow this tiny group of people who insist they’re the most polite, conflict-averse population on Earth are also operating a secret tribunal that ruins people’s reputations without ever saying a word out loud.

That seems…totally normal. Not weird at all.

And then we get to the best part: the moral math. Affairs? Racism? An actual assault allegation? Nope, that’s not the problem. The problem is whether the girl involved has the right last name. Whether her great-grandfather donated an organ, not to a hospital, but to the squash court.

This isn’t etiquette. This isn’t tradition. This is what happens when a small group of people confuse “being discreet” with “being unaccountable.”

And here’s the punchline: you frame it like it’s some grand, ancient WASPian code of honor. But what you’re really describing is a closed circuit of gossip and fear that punishes anyone outside the clan — and protects anyone inside it.

If that’s the system, fine. Own it. Say: “We keep out people we don’t like because that’s how our club works.” But don’t pretend it’s noble, or principled, or that it’s about preserving standards. It’s about power — and the people who have it trying desperately to hold on to it.

And frankly? It shows.[/quote]

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