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[quote=Anonymous]My child was also diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety around this age after a disastrous year in private kindergarten (my child’s birthday was close to the cut off and because they were very academically advanced and doing ok in preschool we were recommended to send them early to kindergarten). It was unbelievably awful and I ended up taking a leave of absence from work for a while to help us get through the year. The thing about private school is they can kick you out at any time, for any reason. Our school was a mainstream private that had a reputation for low child:teacher ratios and meeting kids where they were. But that did not happen at all. Instead they basically threatened us with expulsion all year long and made constant comments about my child and my parenting and the speed with which we were able to get a diagnosis and treatment (which I know realize was extremely fast, probably because we private paid for everything, which we were lucky to be able to do). My biggest parenting regret is not pulling my child out at the first hint of trouble and leaving them in that situation for so long.

I ended up essentially homeschooling for their actual kindergarten year because of COVID and in first they went to public school with an IEP. It was a completely different experience. Each year has been better and my child is now thriving. I swore we would never do private of any kind again. Even SN privates can kick you out if you don’t meet their “profile” and frankly we didn’t find anything that we felt would be remotely appropriate for where our child was academically.

Anyway, I share my experience because it’s easy to be angry and honestly I wish there were better choices around here for privates but at the end of the day I would really encourage you to take a deep breath and focus on what is going to serve your kid right now. The parents counseling you to homeschool may have had similar experiences to mine and want to spare your child the pain of being the despised problem child for a year or more.

You may do best moving (we are in MCPS and I think you can find an elementary school with a strong social education support if you do your research). But pay a lot of attention to how much of a toll this is taking on your child in the meantime. Homeschooling or redshirting can buy you time for a more comprehensive assessment (we saw a developmental pediatrician at KKI after our initial diagnosis) and finding somewhere that is the right fit. Good luck.[/quote]

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