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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think all the no phones before high school people read the same book (the anxious generation) and think they’re in on some secret, but really it’s just a new way for UMC people to judge others. I think the apple watch has become the acceptable item if any for this set. I don’t care what people do, but I do not think there’s any inherent harm in kids talking or FaceTiming on a cell phone (or watch, whatever you want!) as that is the equivalent to our generation talking on the house phone. By 8th grade, it’s nice for kids to make their own plans and confirm them with their parents rather than it being parent-led. [/quote]

My DD got a phone in MS so she could text and facetime with her friends -- both just to chat and to make plans.  I thought of what you did -- that when I was in MS I would talk with my friends on the phone almost every night (I remember sitting in this big bean bag chair in my room and talking on this cute pink landline phone that I loved).  My DD and her friends are good kids; even good kids like to socialize and care about friendships.  If she did not have a way to be on the chats and facetimes, she would be missing out.  The other kids are not calling each other from landlines to talk.  (I'm not saying she would be pariah or that they wouldn't tell her about plans  in person or whatever, but she would be left out of a major way her friend group is socializing.)  I get that some folks don't care, but that is just a fact and I and my DD do care.  She could use the family ipad, but she has siblings who like/need to use it in the evening for school apps and occasional tv watching.  Just giving my DD my old phone made so much more sense than buying a watch and a new ipad and blah blah.  She can get in touch with us on the go, be nimble when it comes to plans, and text and talk with friends.  Total normal MS behavior.

She has no access to social media on her phone, and I monitor and limit usage in general.  It charges downstairs for the night, etc. The real problem for this age group is access to social media.  [/quote]

This sounds normal but you're talking about an adolescent. Where i live the "cool moms" are giving 9 and 10 year olds phones "so they don't get left out."[/quote]

I asked my 4th grader if she knows anyone with a phone (we live in a wealthy area, my kids go to public school) and she said she only has one friend with a phone. I know the friend's family and I'm pretty sure the kid only has a phone for logistical reasons (big family, lots of kids with lots of activities).[/quote]

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