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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel you. I am a good parent. But I despise it. Honestly, it just feels like a prison sentence and I’m just counting down the years which is a terrible way to live, but that’s just the way it is. I have eight more years until they’re both in college at this point.[/quote]

Why do you despise it?[/quote]

I can’t believe I’d even have to come up with a list for despising parenting because it seems extremely obvious.

First, I was never someone who wanted to have kids because I didn’t see the appeal. I was literally physically pressured into it.

It’s all work. 
no joy.
no time.
too expensive.

Being a full-time employee and being a mother is probably the worst situation I could’ve ever imagined, and I never wanted to do it but that’s the situation I’m in. And let’s add on a terrible commute to that.

Anxiety levels raise when you have kids because you have to worry about everything that’s another reason it sucks. I have high anxiety anyway, so having kids makes it worse.

I’m also extremely introverted and honestly working full-time and having kids is just too much for an extremely introverted person. There are too many social commitments that come over along with having children. So that sucks.

I love them, but if I could go back in time and never get married, I absolutely would because then I wouldn’t have been physically pressured to have kids I didn’t want to have.

I am a great mom. I do everything right but I absolutely despise every second of it, and it’s like a countdown until they go to college but then I’m gonna be angry because I will be very old and I have wasted all this time doing things that I did not want to do versus the things that I actually want to spend my time doing, which was not raising children.

And no, it does not get easier for people who say it’s easier that’s just ridiculous.
The absolute easiest time having kids is when they’re from 0 to 5, and I had difficult babies from a health perspective, and I still think it was easier then. One kid is in fifth grade and one kid is in eighth grade and no it’s not easier. It’s much harder because the amount of scheduling that has to be done with older kids with extra curricular activities and school is out of control, and I suspect that until they go to college, it’s just going to get harder every single year as the demands for extracurricular activities and then later college applications are going to ramp up even more. So, no, it’s not easier when they get older. It’s just different.

They know that they don’t have to have kids and then there won’t be pressure for them to have kids and they can either have kids or not have kids, but I will not be pressuring them to be a grandmother ever.

You can be an excellent mother and still hate doing it and believe it or not there are people like this. I am one of them and both my grandmothers were like this, too.

You can love people, be a great parent, and not enjoy it.[/quote]

What a sad life. [/quote]She seems emotionally intelligent to understand herself and what she’s going through. Her honesty is refreshing. [/quote]

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