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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]70 million people behave the same way?
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They don't. It's just the usual malcontents from dysfunctional homes who think their norm is everyone's norm.[/quote]

There is an argument that Boomers, being born in the post-WWII baby boom, include a disproportional number of people from homes with post-war dysfunction, including alcoholism, untreated mental illness (including PTSD), and domestic abuse. As a result, many Boomers ARE dysfunctional. They were not parented with empathy or kindness, and many are emotionally stunted because they grew up with insecure parental attachment. Many have parentified their own kids, asking their children to validate and comfort them as their Silent Generation parents failed to do. This leads to a second generation of dysfunction. And now their kids (Gen X and older Millennials) are adults with the their own kids, navigating that third generation. My observation is that this generation is more able to recognize the dysfunction and is seeking to address it (instead of accepting it as normal, as many Boomers did), but are trying to fix it by trying to force their now elderly parents to change. It's not realistic -- the sad truth is that if you are from one of these families with generational post-war dysfunction, your only realistic option is to accept your parents for who they are, set reasonable boundaries (don't allow yourself to be your parents' surrogate parent or therapist), and then seek to create functional family systems for your own children to pass on. It's hard but it's the way towards repair.

So yes, to some degree these dynamics do play out across the generation. If your Boomer parents (or you) escaped that post-war dysfunction, great! But that doesn't mean it's not a factor. The depression and WWII has major generational impacts. War, in particular, has a long tail.[/quote]

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