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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. I've got nothing left. I spent all day having to talk to people. 
2. I'm not there to chat with you. You are from the South or Midwest and think you're being friendly. I'm from NY and think you're like an annoying gnat - inconsequential and irrelevant. I'm there to see my kid, meet with teachers, etc. [/quote]

Seeing other human beings as inconsequential actually makes you a horrible one. Hope this helps!

And get over yourself with the "I'm from New York crap". My husband is a born and bread New Yorker and nice to people. You're just an ahole. [/quote]

Hah, yes, my father is a New Yorker and tries to make friends with everyone.[/quote]

We went to a small town in Vermont to view the last eclipse after looking up the trajectory on the map. We thought we were being clever to find an out of the way small town, not realizing it would be overrun by other tourists for the same reason. This tiny town jacked up the parking to $26. I was so upset I started complaining about it to strangers walking next to us -- a couple from NY in their late 60s/early 70s. I said I felt so ripped off by this town. The guy said, "Don't let it ruin your experience. Just put it aside. Don't dwell on it. Just enjoy the eclipse." I couldn't believe how kind and human he was to someone he didn't even know, who was spewing negativity. New Yorkers are the best. They live in a massive city and yet retain their basic humanity. How do they do it?[/quote]

When you live somewhere with so many people packed into a relatively small area, you just get used to dealing with the inconvenience of other people all the time. You also realize how small and insignificant you are. You can be a law firm partner or a magazine editor and on a NYC street you're just one of thousands of people, and not the most important one even. You are just exposed to lots of people's lives all the time and you realize that little annoyances or frustrations don't actually matter that much. You also generally have to make do with a much smaller living space than you would anywhere else (like even if you are wealthy, your NYC living space will be more compact than the home someone at your income level would have in another US city) and people mostly realize this is fine and that there are worthwhile reasons to give up square footage. New Yorkers also have greater access to art, theater, music, and academic outlets than people in most other parts of the US. This often results in people just being more cosmopolitan regardless of their individual level of education or their background.

Living in NY just brings out your humanity and enables you to see the humanity of so many other people. You can get this in any reasonably dense city, but in NYC you get more of it and you get it more often. I do think it tends to breed thoughtful, patient, open-minded people. [/quote]

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