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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had no idea so many women are so triggered by another woman asking where their dress is from. Is this an east coast thing? I guess some women are really competitive with other women instead of helpful and open. That is so unfortunate. This may be a really good way to test who is a good friend or not. Ask where their dress is from and if they answer, you have a genuine, caring person. If they don’t, you have a pretentious, competitive weirdo. Choose which type of friend you prefer.  [/quote]

Except many people on this thread have explained why sometimes this question is awkward or why they might not want to answer, and it's not about being competitive or not wanting to be helpful. They may be embarrassed about where they bought it, they may know it is exceedingly expensive and not want to disclose their ability to spend that much money on clothes, they may have bought it on consignment or at a thrift store, etc. None of these things are about being competitive or unhelpful. In fact, if the item is very expensive or impossible to buy, giving a truthful item may be the opposite of unhelpful and just make the asker feel bad about not being able to afford it. And yes, a mom in Brooklyn might feel awkward about saying her dress is from Anthropology or Banana Republic or something. You can scoff at that but it doesn't strike me as surprising or weird, but rather relatable because I have also lived in places where people would have judged me for that.

So you are sitting here laying bait for potential friends and judging people harshly for not responding exactly the way you think they should, but you are the one being judgmental here. Obviously the question makes many people uncomfortable for reasons that have nothing to do with being pretentious or competitive (or "weird"), yet rather than take this info in and adjust your own behavior accordingly, you are lashing out at people who have done nothing to you.[/quote]

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