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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔[/quote]

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable? [/quote]

He got really defensive. Super fun time.[/quote]

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication? [/quote]

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?[/quote]

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

[quote]finding a way to blame me?[/quote]

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

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Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"[/quote]

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children.  That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.

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You're accusing me of wanting to "avoid" a topic that is not the subject of this thread because you want to avoid discussing the subject of this thread, by changing the subject to parental communication. Clever, I will give you that.[/quote]

Yes. For the benefit of your children, I am asking you to consider pursuing the topic of resolving your problems rather than complaining about your spouse. I'm guilty.

The topic of this thread isn't preventing me from discussing issue resolution for the benefit of your children. What's preventing you? [/quote]

What I am hearing from you is that you believe I have an obligation to discuss with you (random internet poster) on this thread entitled "Lazy, careless, DH stories" how I can resolve my "problems" and if I don't that means I don't care about my "children".

lol

Thanks for the laugh

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That fact that you are hearing "obligation" when I used with word "consider" speaks volumes about you. 
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What exactly does it say about me? Let me guess, in some way it means I don't care about it it my children.[/quote]

It means you misrepresent and misinterpret.

I spoke about considering a topic that would "benefit of your children", would be more beneficial to them. I never said you "don't care" about your children. Those are you words. Again, another misrepresentation, a distraction from considering topics that would be more beneficial to your children. [/quote]

Ohhh I see you just think I am missing an opportunity to help my children by not discussing with you my relationship with my spouse on this thread. Not that I don't care about them! My mistake.[/quote]

You already here to discuss your relationship with your spouse. You are here to share stories about how he is lazy and/or careless.

By all means, ignore the considerations I've expressed - other topics beneficial to your children - and continue to share examples of how your spouse is lazy and careless.  The reader can draw their own conclusions from this exchange.

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Oh I see. You are being kind and generous in offering your advice about my marriage. But I should also worry about what other posters will think of me if I don't seek your advice? Specifically they will think I don't care about my children (but you don't think that, no, you only think kind things about people)[/quote]

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