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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a feminist, and think that part of being one is accepting that women do what they want without being held back by men.

I grew up with a depressed SAHM. In elementary school my hair was always in a messy ponytail because that's all I could do, I made my own breakfast and lunch, I walked myself to school after locking the front door, and I came home to a note with a list of chores. I wish my mother had worked! If I'd come home to homemade cookies just ONCE I could have ridden that high for years. [/quote]

And lots of us had the same deal with working moms...[/quote]

I know, and WISH my mom had worked. At least it would have made sense. Plus I'd have had more freedom - I'd have been able to blast music while I did my chores, wouldn't have had to sit on the floor next to my mother splayed out on the couch or her bed and entertained her, been able to call my friends and do homework over the phone together, etc. Plus we'd have had more money, and my dad would have had less stress. [/quote]

I'm a working mom, and I loved having a stay-at-home mom.  We always had a healthy snack after school, and she ran us all around to sports and supported us in homework, and we had a family dinner together most nights.  Plus, we had plenty of money because my dad could focus on his business while she ran the home.  My dad would've been more stressed if he were home more often because he doesn't have the patience or disposition to spend a lot of time with young kids.

That said, I work because even though I had an ideal childhood with a mom who was devoted and supportive, I also felt sorry for my mom because she had no autonomy, respect or access to money.  [b]I know women who are very happy staying home, and I think the key is having a very supportive working spouse who values the effort of the stay-at-home spouse, and they have complete transparency and shared control over money. [/b] [/quote]

Yes. If you do not have financial control and financial security, being a SAHM can be a risk.[/quote]

I guess there are people who are in this position, but I don’t feel more vulnerable financially than someone working.  I have education and could work if necessary.  If my husband wanted a divorce, I would get half of everything.  I have my own credit score and credit cards, etc.  If my husband lost his job, either of us could work and we have savings because we built our lifestyle on one income.  If he dies, we have life insurance.  I just don’t spend time worrying about this.  Life is full of unknowns and you deal with them.[/quote]

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