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[quote=Anonymous]My mom was a SAHM. She raised 4 kids while my dad worked for the military. Every day she made sure his uniforms were pressed and ready for him to wear, she woke up at 4:45 every morning to make his coffee and breakfast, then got us 4 kids ready and off to school. She changed diapers, drove us to our music lessons, and after school activities, made sure the booster clubs had cupcakes to sell for the fundraisers, and managed to clean our house and prep healthy dinners for us every single day of the year, without exception. She stretched his modest paycheck and juggled paying the bills so that we could enjoy a comfortable life. (Thank goodness for pensions because there was nothing left to save for their old age!) As a mom with a FT professional career, I have ZERO negative judgment for her. But she'd be the first one to say that her life was not fulfilling. She knew to not dream or want more than what she got. She knows that she was lucky, because unlike the other young women from her low-income neighborhood, her husband was faithful, didn't drink away his paycheck, didn't physically abuse her, and stuck with her for over 60 years. But she also knows that nobody ever asked her what she wanted. I find it ludicrous that people here are talking about the "choice" to stay home, as if the women who did this in prior generations were doing this as a choice. She instilled in us from childhood the importance of being able to financially support ourselves so that we would have power within our marriages and not have our wellbeing dependent on the whims of our husbands. The most important thing to her was that her daughters would never depend on a man to keep a roof over our heads. She would be so disappointed in us if we didn't make our own money. When I had my first child, she came to help me at the hospital and then stayed for the first few months to help me while I was on maternity leave. Part of the reason for that was to help me learn to let someone besides me take care of my child's diapers and bottles. She did everything possible to enable me to return to work with minimal stress and worry. Never in a million years would she consider that the lovely women who cared for him while I worked for pay were "raising him for me." [/quote]

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