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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean, does anyone really enjoy working? Why do women act like the dream is to work and raise a family? I have a career but have done stay-at-home, FT work, PT work, WFH, etc as a mom. Preference would be to never work again. I just do it for the money. Can people really not find intellectual stimulation without a job??[/quote]

Same. I would only add that I do it to have my own money - I needed a level of financial control to feel secure.  [/quote]
I never really understand this line of thinking. Why are you having children with a man with whom you already don’t feel secure with, or with whom you share control over finances? So no one should ever stay home? Or only women with trust funds should stay home? Because it’s not safe otherwise? If that’s the case, then only a small fraction of women would successfully stay home.

[b]Just so you know, you could have a job and a man could still gamble or otherwise squander away every penny you have and that would be the end of it. [/b]

I’m genuinely curious what “security” looks like to you? Having your own bank account with money before baby? It’s still a marital asset, you know. So is every penny of his money, and it’s unlikely he wants to throw it all away unless he’s Fotis Dulos or something. Divorcing a SAHM doesn’t come cheap. [/quote]

Not if you have your own accounts.[/quote]
Not in my state. They’d be disclosed in discovery and become marital property.[/quote]

That’s only if you’re divorcing. Which is not what I was responding to. I’d make him pay his gambling debts himself while married.[/quote]
Cool. But then when all of his funds are gone after paying his debts, how are you paying to live? From your money, that’s how. [/quote]

He’s still employed, obviously. He will be earning money continuously.[/quote]
He’s spending it on gambling, remember? [/quote]

He won't be after I find out about it. I won't pay a cent towards this nonsense--the bookies can come and break his kneecaps. He doesn't need them to work. [/quote]

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