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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid doesn’t do much. He reads, has a summer job, hangs out with friends, cooks occasionally. During the school year, he does his homework, his chores, reads, etc. Why is being busy all of the time considered the default and anyone who strays from it must be depressed or doing drugs? [/quote]

I also have a 15 yo boy and would never cross my imagination to ask the pediatrician why he doesn’t have “drive” just because he is not busy all the time or not in a structured extracurricular.[/quote]

Yeah, OP I'm not hearing you say he's slacking off in school.  Also sounds like you can afford the trip.

The above was me as a teen - I was a good student who did well in school.  I had a nice group of friends who I hung out with - we were good kids, no drinking, etc.  I had summer jobs and, as an older teen, part-time jobs during the school year.  I read a lot, and enjoyed writing in a journal.  I played zero sports (totally nonathletic) and did nothing musical or theatre-related (totally tone deaf).  I don't remember being in any clubs in high school, although I did do volunteer work.  I enjoyed high school.

I enjoyed college as well.  I'm happily married with two great kids.  I have a career I enjoy that affords me lots of balance.  As an adult I still don't really have any hobbies.  I still love to read.   I'm a good friend to my small, but close, group I've cultivated.

Funny thread because I'm in the middle of planning a mother-daughter trip with my tween right now.  The reason for the trip?  Just to spend time together!!

Obviously we don't have to say yes to everything our kids ask for your.  But your reason for saying no is to punish him for not being "driven" enough?  How gross!

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