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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I was in divorce support groups the women were mostly stay at home women or women in fields that didn't make much. It was obvious the men were abusing their relationship and felt like they could because in their eyes the women didn't contribute much and didn't have a lot of choices.

Since adultery isnt a crime nor is verbal abuse nor is using money made for non family activities, you find a lot of marriages that have to put up with these things or have divorces initiated to break away from these things because there is no law to protect someone from this.

The marriages that I see that last are the ones with decent guys to begin with who care about their reputation, make decent money, and genuinely like their spouse and women who are able to still look good through the years and make the household run smoothly. This or a marriages where it's clear anything goes. [/quote]

I have no doubt that you are speaking the truth based on your experience, but your experience from a divorce support group is not representative of the experience of all SAHMs. It’s a snapshot of the experiences of some divorced SAHMs, but since the divorce rate for educated women over 30 hovers at around 16%, it is not representative.

Personal ancedotes aren’t conclusive evidence. My personal anecdote is that is my large and sprawling family there are a lot of happy working mothers and happy SAHMs. There are also women who switch between groups. None are divorced or have cheating or abusive husbands (all are UMC and educated). Sure there are some who 
quit work and didn’t like being at home so they returned to work, but not all working mothers are happy with their lot. Some are super stressed trying to juggle work and family, feel like they aren’t doing a great job in either role, have anxiety, don’t get enough sleep, have no free time, and wish they could quit. Juggling it all takes a toll on their mental and physical health and relationships.

I debated posting again (I’m the PP with a sister who is a SAHM) but the sketches others are drawing of SAHMs are caricatures and since I love the SAHMs in my life, I hate reading them.

All women are not the same and do not want the same things from life. All men are not abusive. Women weigh risks differently and place different values on money, career, time spent with children, and quality of life.  There isn’t only one way to have a happy and successful life. [/quote]

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