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[quote=Anonymous]Wowza. I'm sorry OP. DCUM is such a rough place for this type of conversation. I've had a couple of elective surgeries, thrilled with the results and feeling so much better in my body post-partum.

Without knowing you and your husband, it's hard for me to know how strongly you each feel about this. You will briefly need his help post-op (probably about a week) and it is a financial decision. Here's what I would do based on my own experience:

Do some research and find the best 3 surgeons you can. We are spoiled for choice of excellent surgeons in the DMV area.  Check them out on Real Self to see if you like their work aesthetically and whether their patients talk about them being good listeners, offering solid follow up post-surgery. Schedule consultations with them. Ask all of your questions and gather all the information. Make sure you like them and feel comfortable. If your husband is willing, ask him to come to ask directly about the risks. If the surgeon has an online community where you can reach out to past patients about their experience, do it. The real risks to worry about are the ones most people never give much thought to--loss of sensation, scarring (I have one keloid which is a bummer but not a big deal to me), or asymmetry. Only a percentage of patients will deal with them but it's something to mentally prepare for. The absolute best way to mitigate risk with any elective surgery is picking an excellent surgeon who performs surgery in a fully equipped surgical center or hospital with a skilled team (anesthesiologist, RN's etc). Ask about this during your consultations.

Once you have all the information, re-assess with your husband. People on DCUM are oddly emotional about other people getting plastic surgery and are not going to do a rational, thoughtful assessment with you. And their risk analysis is typically not based on any actual facts (or is solely anecdotal). There is a wealth of information online about the risks of ana

Whichever path you choose, it's your one body. The older you get, the tougher the surgery will be so it's absolutely worth the full consideration now. I hope you find a way forward that you feel good about![/quote]

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