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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother's dead now, but for the last decade-plus of her life, she had no idea what to ask me beyond:

1. How are you?
2. Are you having fun?
3. Do you still like to eat [insert food I liked at age 4]?

Her world was SO small that she couldn't fathom what might be going on in mine. And she was married with two kids, a dog and a house in the suburbs by age 26, so she couldn't relate on any level to her single, no kids, renting in a city daughter who works because she doesn't have a man to rely on. She couldn't give advice, couldn't understand how I knew what was business casual and what wasn't, didn't know where the line was when joking with your boss, thought I was on the precipice of being mugged and raped every time I was out once the sun went down, and she could NOT open her mind when I told her things.

Me: I'm going to dim sum with Elizabeth for brunch this weekend.
Her: Is it in a safe neighborhood?
Me: Yes, the same neighborhood where I work - sometimes coworkers and I even go there on our lunch hour.
Her: Will it be enough food for brunch if you normally eat it for lunch?
Me: Yes, there's plenty. 
Her: Well I don't know.
Me: I took you and Dad to this exact restaurant last time you visited. We sat outside, remember? I did a British accent when you went to drink your tea?
Her: It was very good.
Me: [not knowing if she meant the tea or accent] Glad you liked it!
Her: How will you get home? 
Me: I'll walk or take the bus.
Her: Is that safe? Anyone could be on the bus.
Me: Yes, even me. It could be a bus full of people like me, just going to brunch and running errands, sprinkled with some tourists.
Her: You should be careful.
Me: I always am. 
Her: Do you take Ubers?
Me: Yes.
Her: I read about someone in Nebraska who took an Uber and the driver murdered her and cut out her baby from her uterus.
Me: Well, I'm not in Nebraska or pregnant so I don't have to worry about that. And it made the news because it's so unusual. (And on, and on.)[/quote]

Well, maybe you think she wasn't able to open up her mind but it seems to me her questions about your welfare showed she had an open heart.[/quote]

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