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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I read all the replies and appreciate them but genuinely don't feel I was out of line. When people can be so exclusive why not push for inclusivity? I did appreciate that the parent replied to my text. I wanted to be transparent about how it made my child feel so next time there might be a bit more self-reflection. I understand not every child is invited to each playdate,  but if the opportunity arises, why not extend the offer to one more kid instead of simply changing the subject? My child clearly wanted to play. The mom in question has a large home and could have accommodated the extra child and I would have been happy to reciprocate next time. It was just an awkward situation which could have been made kinder by inclusivity. [/quote]

At a practical level, you are not wrong. But there are unwritten social "rules" in situations like this. As you can tell by the reactions to your post, people can (not always) get very upset when those rules are broken. The rule here is that you can't show any emotional vulnerability or 'advocate' for your dd when an invitation is not extended, even if it hurts your dd's feelings. Most likely this mom is not as much of a viper as the posters here are (or claim to be) and won't text every other mom at the school about this and lead to social exclusion for you and your dd (true mean girl behavior) but your best bet is to just do a heart of her message to show your feelings have calmed down some after yesterday. [/quote]

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