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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok so:

He's generally nice to you: That's good but I wouldn't call it "amazing". You must have a very low opinion of men if you do.

He doesn't micromanage your spending, which is partly from your own earnings and marital assets: Normal.

He does some chores (less than half): Normal. He doesn't have to be reminded: Good.

He took 2 weeks parental leave: Not very good.
He was helpful while on leave: Good.

He is a CFO of a big company: That's really the most "amazing" thing here.

He "bought you a house" using your earnings which are half his anyway, and other marital assets which are half yours anyway: Normal, and also a weird thing for you to say.

He doesn't really care about which house so he went with your preference: Normal.

He sees his kid 2 days a week: Not very good, may improve as the kid stays up later.

He's handling a weekend of caring for one infant mostly without your input: That's good. But it's not "amazing".

So I'm not really seeing where the "amazing" is, and I think your friends are right to call this out.  What makes you feel you need to ooh and aah over this setup?[/quote]

OP here.

He’s more than “ generally” nice to me. [b]He’s very good to me and goes out of his way to treat me well and show me he loves me. [/b]

I say he bought a house for us because he used his savings as a down payment and fully pays the mortgage and almost all of our bills. We have a joint account but my paycheck has always gone directly into savings.

Many working men and women barely see their kids. I know several female doctors and lawyers who see their kids on average 1 hour a night and on the weekends. People work.

Many men do not get enough paternity leave. Some men are lucky to even get 2 weeks.[/quote]

Like you do for him, right? Are you an amazing wife? Or are you a normal couple at the beginning, often the easiest part, of a marriage?[/quote]

This^. OP is an amazing wife/mom/household manager/second earner and her DH is appreciative as he is climbing the ladder and earning much more than he could if he had to hold the fort at home as well. You should hire some help and both enjoy what matters to you. OP, you deserve it all. [/quote]

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