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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]op - I'll TLDR it for you. 
the answer is yes. I, for example, do. 
But all the sahms on here will say 'no he is so happy for me to stay home and do f all! and also being a mom is a full time job even though my kids are in school all day! I still need to take them to sports sometimes!
Meanwhile every dude I know whose wife does nothing, while they may say they are ok with it, kind of isn't. 
The very wealthy (like $1.5m+ HHI a year) a little more so but the wives are then expected to do a lot of volunteering/ have interests. It's a little embarrassing for the dh when they have nothing going on. [/quote]

I went back to work part time once all kids were in school. But here is what I will say:

I think the problem with this is the DHs feel this way but many are still not willing or able to help with: summers, vacations & days off, sick days, after school activities, school pickup. Depending on the age of the kid and school situation, obviously. And not all of that is easily hired out (some is), especially if you have multiple kids. In many cases the DH has become very accustomed to having his wife do all of those things if she was a SAHM in the earliest years….and wants his wife to go back to work yet isn’t willing to make adjustments on his end.

We struggled a lot with that at first.

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