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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, gotta agree that the kids come first.
It seems, though, that if you're flying to places for tournaments that they aren't that young at all. So, maybe 3-5 years before they are out of the nest and off to college?
Can she wait that long for more time with you?[/quote]

OP here. My son is 15. He is a sophomore in HS. I'll also add that he is taking advanced classes and I have to help him with his academic as well. My daughter is 13. So my son will go to college in 2 years and my daughter in 5.

Can she wait? That's a tough question. Frankly I am not sure if it's even to ask her that.

I won't be upset if she breaks up with me. As I have said I will understand. I just can't have that additional time.

If we are still together at our 1 year mark, I'll introduce her to my kids. I already told them about her and they want to meet her, but I told them soon. [/quote]

I have a 13 and 15yo as well as one in elementary. Both teens are very busy and do require lots of driving. Your ex can use uber or get a driver. I don’t think you need to be responsible for all.

But the gf doesn’t sound like a good fit. We know a widower who dated someone in their mid and then late thirties who always wanted more. She became a friend/babysitter/driver and it seemed fine. She wanted kids and marriage and he didn’t. The woman will always want more. If she is a catch, she can get better than what you can offer her.

We are probably around the same age and a single mom would be more understanding and likely a better match unless this woman really loves you and can wait.[/quote]

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