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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long time lurker needing to vent. DD (20 years old, finishing her sophomore year) has applied to more competitive schools three times (two times as a college student one time as a high schooler) and gotten rejected all times. She’s currently at a private I never wanted her at in the first place.

Back in high school, she was a decent student (mostly B’s, a few A’s, not a good test taker) but not great, so I knew the Ivies and top-tier schools would be a stretch. But I thought for sure she could work her way up once in college. She’s poured her heart into her first two years at this lower place, taking challenging classes, getting decent grades, volunteering, clubs, etc.

Yet every single “higher” school she applied to has shot her down. Northeastern, Georgetown, UCLA, Tulane, UVA, Wake Forest, William and Mary, USC (dream school), UCSD, Irvine, UT Austin, UFlorida, Georgia, BostonU, BostonC, etc. She has one more chance to apply to transfer before she hits the credit limit that makes transferring impractical not to mention the additional semesters of tuition it would cost us. If this last try doesn’t work out, she’ll be stuck finishing at the same no-name place. This feels like the end of the road for her future possibilities, and I’m heartbroken, and honestly, kind of furious.

I understand maybe this is just “how it is,” but I see other kids in her high school class who breezed into brand-name colleges left and right. We spent thousands of dollars on tutoring, SAT prep, extracurricular camps, you name it. She’s a bright kid but apparently not bright enough for the pretentious and sadistic admissions committees.

Has anyone else gone through a situation like this? I’m trying to figure out if we have any last-ditch strategies, or if I just have to come to terms with the fact that my daughter may have to remain at a school that, in my heart, I believe is beneath her potential. I just want honest opinions and some glimmer of hope. Thanks for reading, everyone.[/quote]
My DD graduated high school with a 4.0 UW GPA, Summa Cum Laude, every possible honors class, AP's, dual enrollment, varsity sports letter, volunteer hours, tutoring, EC camps, etc. and she got denied at USC. Pitzer and waitlisted at Occidental. We didn't even shoot for the Ivies. She got accepted at 10 schools like Pepperdine, Santa Clara, Baylor, etc. Your DD is likely where she needs to be and making her go through this constant rejection is not going to help her, it will only make her feel like she is letting you down. Help her bloom where she's planted instead of making her feel bad for being there. [/quote]

Test score? Major? Any hook or pointy narrative?
Note the varsity letter and volunteer hours aren’t really valued by schools anymore unless there’s something “more”…[/quote]
Not pointy at all. Test score was 1430 and we knew the volunteering and sports were nothing special. No hooks and was undecided major when applying - if a major was needed to apply, she put anthropology (she was fascinated by the TV show "Bones"). She understood the math on Ivy admissions and decided not to spend money and time to apply. Her one long shot would be to throw her hat into the ring for USC with the idea that she would likely not get admitted. She was pragmatic and didn't fall in love anywhere till admission letters were in hand. She ended up at a school that she loves, got a great merit scholarship, majors in accounting, and makes awesome grades. Will have 3 terrific internships under her belt, including a B4, by the time she is finished. My point to OP was to loosen up, there are many paths to success and to focus on helping her DD succeed where she is instead of going through a 4th round of rejections.[/quote]

1430 is low for top 25 schools. It shows that 4.0 is probably deflated. [/quote]

It is a bit low for those schools which is why she didn’t get in. One gets the sense though that OP’s daughter is nowhere close to 1430. [/quote]

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