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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sure my mom casts me as a villain when she tells people that we do not invite her for Christmas. What she probably doesn’t mention is that we hosted her for years until I had a child, and when I held my baby in my arms for those first weeks I was devastated. I suddenly realized that my mom’s insistence that she was the best mother on earth and no one would love me because only she could tolerate me was not true.

Holding my baby and imagining doing the things to her that my mom did to me made me see that my mom’s love was not what she told me it was and that she had physically and verbally abused me for years as a child and verbally abused me as an adult. I literally couldn’t grasp it until I had a child of my own- I thought it was normal family life because I was told it was.

So when my mom is at her class at the senior center and tells you that her daughter is mean to her for no reason, consider that the reason is that my mom beat me with her hands and fists and a yardstick from the time I was tiny, and would grab my shoulders and shake my whole body while screaming at me. And then she would tell me to get cleaned up for church and slap me if I let out a snuffle or tear while we walked out to the car.

My mom dresses nicely and drives a Volkswagen and gets healthy food at Whole Foods. You would never assume that she is not telling the truth.[/quote]

I hate that she did that to you :( Good for you for breaking that cycle of abuse. You do NOT have to invite her to Christmas, it doesn’t matter what other people think, you know what’s best for you and your family. Sending a hug. [/quote]

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