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[b]We have to get used to the fact that a nuclear family indeed dissolves. You cannot force yourself on your kids' nuclear families. [/b]You may need to find other things to do, the same as some do Friendsgiving etc. Christmas is for kids and everybody else should be mature enough to have a more holistic approach. Spending it alone is a time to reflect and there's nothing wrong with that. A lot of people spend holidays alone. [/quote]

This is the work the Boomers don't want to do.  Why should they have to adjust their needs ever?

The healthy Boomers in my life are ok with spending Christmas morning alone.  The unhealthy ones are still alone, they are just not ok with it.  Guess whose happier?

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Yes, this reminds me of Mother's Day threads. Boomers, who spent Mother's Days getting all the attention still want all the attention now that their kids are married and have families of their own. It's still all about them. Who cares about their daughters or DILs. Now Christmas is also all about them. Who cares about the little kids or what they want or how uncomfortable it is for them to travel, or how uncomfortable it is for the adult kids to pack up all their family, or to have to host at every holiday. Seriously, in old times once you got married, you went and built your own life and rarely saw your parents, and nobody expected you to, unless you took over the family farm and were basically there. Now every other thread is about how adult children have to circle around their elderly parents, why don't they host, visit and call every week, as if the Boomers are the center of the universe.  [/quote]

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