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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm curious. We have all read about the significant number of GenX kids cutting off their parents. I read an NYT article recently and to me, the person who wrote that book is conducting malpractice. In the case of actual abuse, I am sorry, but it seems like the younger generations never learned grace or to accept that their parents were humans and imperfect. I still have young ones, and love spending time with my parents--yes, even my conservative, annoying mother, so haven't had kids go no-contact yet. But the way things are going, it will probably happen some day. It's so sad to me.[/quote]

It’s so so sad to me too. My parents were not perfect. They were healing their own trauma. They escaped into alcoholism and other terrible things. We suffered our own trauma and we healed and we learned and grew. I am so happy that I have a great relationship with both of them and love them and nurture my love for them. I called my elderly mom every night and tell her how much I love her. I visit her on vacations and I bring her my children, which is the best thing I can possibly do and she nurtures and love them in the way she did with me when she was able to. I would never cut her off and leave her alone in the world to die elderly and sick. I love her. I love my in-laws and my dad and I love and honor my family and all the ways I can. That nurtured my love with my children and teaches them what family is all about.[/quote]

Ok, so I should expose my young children to my FIL who is verbally abusive? I should just tell them they this is part of childhood trauma and it happens to everyone and they'll learn and grow? My husband is still in therapy dealing with the abuse he suffered as a kid. We would have to be insane to voluntarily subject our children to the same. [/quote]

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