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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We/I talked to ds at about 14 about consent and using protection every single time.  It was more of a refresher talk because he had started dating.  We were on a road trip, so a good time to chat.  I told him that if she tenses up, hesitates, or pushes him away at ALL, it was time to stop.  I also told him that it was just as ok for him to stop, and she needed to respect that.

We also talked about never trusting the pill (I was on birth control both times I got pregnant,  and reacting to pregnancy.  I also brought up not staying in a bad relationship because he liked the sex.[/quote]

Yikes. Your 14 yo is having sex? [/quote]

That was 9 years ago.  He wasn't having sex yet but he was dating.  14/15 is pretty common for first experiences.  My husband teaches 9th grade... our heads were not buried in the sand.

Fast forward to today.  At 23 1/2 ds has had the same GF for 7 years.  They are talking about marriage, buying a house etc.[/quote]

Dating for 7 years? So, failure to launch. Sounds like you weren't as successful as this as you thought.[/quote]

What are you talking about?  They are 23 and 24.  He graduated from college in June, she still has two more years because she's paying her own way.  He is working in his chosen field, and saving for a ring and a down-payment on a house.

Failure to lauch?  Hardly.[/quote]

Dating for 7 years mean someone's not committed. Cool for teenagers, not cool for adults. [/quote]

You’re kind of ridiculous. DH & I started dating in HS and got married 10 years later. We were busy doing things like graduating from HS, undergrad, and grad school. We’ve been married for almost 20 years, happy as ever. [/quote]
Apparently that pp thinks everyone should marry at 18 and start popping out babies immediately. Forget education, maturity or growth! [/quote]

24 and a college graduate is not 18.[/quote]
Yeah, and it sounds like they'll be getting engaged soon. After they've been together a few years completing college, etc. Which apparently pp thinks is "too long" and "failed to launch". [/quote]

Seven years together is a long time - we married two days after DH graduated/was commissioned. *shrug* And no, we're not ultra-religious. It's just there's not much point in waiting years when you know it's the right person (we only waited a year and a half because I wanted to graduate first and he was required to). [/quote]
Great, that's what worked for you. Do you really judge anyone who doesn't do things exactly as you did as inferior?[/quote]

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