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[quote=Anonymous]The truth is the decisions we make with regard to childcare do impact eachother, which is why these threads get so heated.  When two parents working is the norm the cost of living will reflect that.  It does mean a relative sacrifice for a parent to stay home, ie less money for a nicer house or less money for college savings.  So why did op even ask someone why a spouse doesn’t work?  Because that’s the default and therefore they want them to ‘explain’ their choice.  I work part time and have a part time nanny.  My kids don’t do afterschool or daycare.  It’s a big hit for us financially probably close to 100k a year including  income loss.  Yes the 529 will be less.  Yes We live in a more modest house in a further out exurb to afford this.  Yes we consciously do this so I can spend more time with our kids.  Will it make a difference in their long term success/well being?  Maybe but probably not.  But it’s what I want to do with my life right now and my dh agrees as long as we are budgeting our lifestyle accordinglly.  Some people also pay more to attend an ‘elite’ daycare or private school.  Some people spend tens of thousands on travel sports.  Everyone prioritizes their kids in different ways.  I do think women should keep a foot in the door of the job world in case of divorce, death, or job loss. [/quote]

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