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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ADHD is literally poor executive functioning. This task would have taken multiple executive functions: planning, organization, making goals, task initiation, time management, flexibility to deal with you being gone, problem solving (actually he did that, just not how you would have), maybe self-restraint. It's everything he struggles with.[/quote]

oh yeah it’s such a struggle to go to Target and buy a toy, and show up at the Trampoline park on time 🙄 this dude didn’t care - it’s not adhd. [/quote]

I have ADHD and that's so ineffective. It's a waste of time, gas, and energy. Everybody knows that birthday parties come up when you have kids that age, so why not grab extra gifts when they are on sale in December or for Labor Day? It's much easier to shop your closet. It sounds like OP could better manage things too. Though if she wants to be frustrated it wasn't a Target gift, it's within her right. [/quote]

Obviously this guy doesn’t plan far enough in advance to order on Amazon. And lol, no, these types of men wouldn’t be buying extra gifts on sale in january wtf. [/quote]

But, OP didn't do that either. If she had, she could have tasked him with something else and gotten exactly the gift she wanted. [/quote]

right. weaponized incompetence gets men like this what they want. now in addition to having to pack and get ready to take the other kid out of town for the sports event, OP will also have to order the birthday present and maybe even set up a carpool to ensure the kid even gets there. that’s the direction this story goes - down, down, down. by the end of my marriage my ex literally did zero. [/quote]

If you chose to continue being married to someone this severely incompetent then yes, you should probably do all the things that are important to you. Instead of spending time doing things, she wastes both time and mental space complaining about the man she chose to have children with.[/quote]

Aaaaannnnd Doofus Dad for the win!

Off the hook forever!

Gets to keep the image and reputation of Successful Married Family Man.

Bingo! [/quote]

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