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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]DH makes unilateral decisions with marital funds. [/quote]

OP has made it clear that there are NO marital funds. She keeps her money; he keeps his. They share expenses according to some arrangement they negotiated when they got married. That agreement is almost certainly not legally enforceable.

She is angry because H is not paying the percentage of their expenses they previously agreed upon. Evil stepmom has decided this is because her H is paying too much for his child from a previous marriage. So, she has decided that she should be able to force her H to pay less for his child so she doesn't have to spend as much of her money on their kids and joint expenses.

IMO, she's wrong. She can tell her H she can't take up the slack of what he was paying, but it's not up to her to decide where he gets the money to pay what she considers his fair share. Leave it at that--don't say she wants him to pay more by paying less for his child. [b]He can get a side gig. He can  cut back on his personal expenses, he can announce he is not going to take a vacation this year [/b]and won't contribute to any vacation stepmom takes, he can take out a Parent Plus loan...whatever.

She doesn't get to decide that her stepdaughter is a "princess," that she has to work more shifts, that she should have a crappier car, etc. Since she obviously doesn't consider this young woman as her child, she does NOT have the right to control her.
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He's not trying to pick up a part time job, he's trying to raid his wife's bank account! "Constantly" according to her. [/quote]

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