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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, I should add I am 31 and I'm starting to get scared. I don't want to be single but even I am (clearly, if I am posting here) starting to realize it might be time to call it quits and go back to being single, even at 31[/quote]

It sounds like you don’t like each other very much.
If he is saying ‘this one’s on you’ he CLEARLY feels like you are a gold digger - how are you not seeing that? You say you split things equally but are you sure that’s true? That kind of comment is only made by a man who feels taken advantage of. And the other comments about his birthday suggest also some depression and just lack of shared excitement about him as a person. He may be feeling like you are settling for him as a sensible option financially and getting resentful and depressed and irritated about it [/quote]

Maybe OP is cheap. We all know people like this. The ones who expect everyone else to pay for them. [/quote]

there could be many case scenarios but what I promise op is that people don't say 'this one's on you' if they haven't felt taken advantage of. They just don't. So in some way, on some level, you have created that scenario at least from his pov. It may be that your taste is more expensive than his and so where he wanted to be able to be chivalrous at the beginning, he wasn't expecting to have to spend at the level you expect. He is clearly resentful about something and irritated. What's on him, is not to articulate his feelings. That is actually the bigger issue. couples get mad at each other all the time, but resentment happens when it isn't spoken. [/quote]

Dh and I are both generally very generous to our friends and family. There are people who we have hosted hundreds of times and love their company.

There is one family who just started rubbing us the wrong way. They don’t exactly take advantage of us since we invite them and pay for them. They never ever treat us. If we go somewhere, they can’t even pick up the take out. We have paid for them for so long that it seems odd to ask them to pay their half. We have picked up the bill or hosted them so much that it feels bad when they wil calculate our share that one time they initiate a dinner. Dh went out with them recently and of course Dh paid. I told Dh to start sending Venmo requests. Dh is a classy guy and probably won’t.

[b]Who knows what kind of person OP is but it sounds like she hasn’t been paying for a whole year,[/b] granted the guy said he doesn’t want to be paid for by a woman.[/quote]
She said in her op that she paid $200 for dinner last weekend and that she paid for a dinner this past weekend. Plus whatever round her bf said was on her. It sounds like she is paying just not as frequently as he is. Which, I wouldn't offer frequently either if a guy told me women didn't have to pay. You wanna lie to impress me? You don't have to tell me twice![/quote]

It sounds like her paying is only recent unless I have followed OP incorrectly. It sounds like the guy paid for a year and is now wanting OP to start paying, which she is. I don’t know if he is less into her, in a worse financial state or OP has been taking advantage. Who knows?[/quote]
DP how is it taking advantage by not paying for a guy who said he would never let her pay for him. [/quote]

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