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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women should just let their man go get release through a prostitute. It's not that big of a deal.[/quote] Men don’t want prostitutes or “release.” They want connection and desire. This post sounds like it was written by a woman in any case. [/quote] Most of the ones around here complaining about sexless marriages seem completely fine with the concept of having sex with their wives, whether or not their wives are turned on or into it. The decent ones say they want consent, but none seem interested in whether their wives enjoy it. The tip is when they start talking about their wives making "unilateral" decisions to not have sex wiht their husbands as if the husband has any say in whether his wife will have sex with him.[/quote] You sound like a complete nut case. Marriage is a partnership, off course husband will have a say when THEY will have sex. Same goes for wife. Now if the husband or wife are a-hole or if they have gotten too fat, then it is understandable for their spouse not to have any desire. [/quote] Husbands don't get to decide whether their wife will have sex. They need to get consent.[/quote] Marriage is a partnership which means both partners have a say when they have sex. Asking for permission makes it a master/slave relationship not a partnership [/quote] Having sex with someone without their permission makes it rape.[/quote] This seems like a completely irrelevant point. How exactly is rape connected to this discussion?[/quote] read the thread back—the angry guy said the both partners should get decide if the wife wants to have sex and that by doing it any other way creates a master/slave relationship. consent is key to any sexual encounter. not a debatable thing.[/quote] I said BOTH partners decide when THEY have sex in a PARTNERSHIP. Its a MUTUAL decision. [b]Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse.[/b] However if their spouse is an a-hole, abusive or have become very fat then it’s completely not to have any desire. [/quote] OMG i can't stop laughing[/quote] Laughing is the easy way out if you don’t have an answer [/quote] no, i just love the idea that NOT having sex with someone because they're gross is abusive. sorry, i'll try to take you seriously.[/quote] You are injecting your own thoughts into other people’s posts. I clearly said if a person is abusive, a-hole or very fat then it’s completely understandable for their spouse to not have any desire for them [/quote] no, you said [b]Unilaterally withholding sex by one partner is abuse.[/b] It's so funny.[/quote] Off course it is abuse. How else is that person supposed to fulfill their desires? Jerking off or using toys is vastly different from sex with another person. And no marriage is not just about sex, but it is a very important element of a marriage unless both partners are low libido [/quote] Abuse isn’t accurate, but withholding sex is absolutely equivalent to cheating. [/quote] Except it's done openly. Also, to consider equivalent to cheating, you'd have to believe that sex is an obligation of marriage. Fidelity is an obligation of marriage. Sex is not. It's a thing we enjoy and desire.[/quote] So you unilaterally decide not to have sex with your spouse, but expect fidelity? Boy you are nuttier than I thought [/quote] Fidelity is non-negotiable in a marriage. Don't want to do it, get divorced. Easy, what's everyone so upset about?[/quote] Why is fidelity non-negotiable but sexual satisfaction negotiable? There are plenty of cultures/religion where sex is non-negotiable- you refuse sex completely, the other party gets a divorce.[/quote] Go live in those cultures if that's what you want. That's not this culture.[/quote] LOL I don’t think you know much about “this culture” or any other if you think marriages require fidelity but not sex. 😂🤣😂. What a clown 🤡 [/quote] Out of curiosity, what were your wedding vows?[/quote] My vows were to love and honor my husband- to most men that includes sex.[/quote] That's it, just love and honor? Nothing about staying faithful?[/quote] If you break one part of the vow, it’s broken. That’s not just fidelity. Everyone but you is acknowledging that refusing sex completely without a real reason is a betrayal.[/quote] Okay, go ahead and cheat... lol. Just don't be surprised when she takes everything in the divorce.[/quote] The vast majority of states don’t consider infidelity in distributing marital asserts. And in states that do, stuff like constructive abandonment must also apply.[/quote]
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