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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP: Your daughter needs to see a therapist in order to be able to discover and to release whatever emotions are causing her to feel such anger.

My best guess is that your daughter does not like herself and that your daughter does not like her life.[/quote]

This is very perceptive. [/quote]

Yes.   New pp but I’m in my 40s now, but when I was in my 20s I hated myself and my life.   I blamed my parents for all the choices that led me to my (very successful) adult life and for all my flaws.  At one point I read an article on a classmate whose mom and her both worked for peace for America and I was enraged that my mom or dad not only didn’t do that but would have very strongly discouraged me if I wanted to do that.    In reality, it’s true they seem to make their love conditional on me being a certain way and making certain choices.  And that made me hate myself even more for going along with it.  I don’t hate them anymore, but I can’t say I like them.  Spending them with them is frustrating and I don’t particularly value any of their opinions on anything.  I’ve gone a version of grey rock for decades.    But I’m mostly happier now. [/quote]

So your parents would have told you to go to college and build a career around something more reliable and secure than hippie “Peace for America” NGOs?!? 
And you hate them?

Gosh.

Imagine that honest, refreshing feedback.

Can’t wait to see how your kids turn out. [/quote]

Peace for America is a post college job, not a job instead of college.  I went to a prestigious college, and so did the girl who worked for peace for American after college (she went to the same college as me, which is where I read her story in the alumni magazine). I imagine she went on to do great things after her stint at peace for America.   I didn’t really have a point, just relating that a lot of my self hatred bled into my parents in my 20s, and I still don’t like my parrnts as people but don’t hate them anymore.   There was no other point.   You’d have to meet them to understand.   Some personalities are just shitty.  Maybe mine is too!   [/quote]

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