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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP: Your daughter needs to see a therapist in order to be able to discover and to release whatever emotions are causing her to feel such anger.

My best guess is that your daughter does not like herself and that your daughter does not like her life.[/quote]

This is very perceptive. [/quote]

Yes.   New pp but I’m in my 40s now, but when I was in my 20s I hated myself and my life.   I blamed my parents for all the choices that led me to my (very successful) adult life and for all my flaws.  At one point I read an article on a classmate whose mom and her both worked for peace for America and I was enraged that my mom or dad not only didn’t do that but would have very strongly discouraged me if I wanted to do that.    In reality, it’s true they seem to make their love conditional on me being a certain way and making certain choices.  And that made me hate myself even more for going along with it.  I don’t hate them anymore, but I can’t say I like them.  Spending them with them is frustrating and I don’t particularly value any of their opinions on anything.  I’ve gone a version of grey rock for decades.    But I’m mostly happier now. [/quote]

So what exactly do you think they did wrong?[/quote]

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