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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I actually don't think what you said was that horrible, in light of what she'd been saying to you. I had a difficult relationship with my mom and would never in a million years dream of saying what she did to you. She needs to cool down and reflect on what she said/did. You both could use some distance and cooling off. [/quote]

Yeah. This. The fact that you think what you said to her was terrible (after she berated you) points to you probably having had a lot of trouble setting boundaries with her. That’s probably why she’s a brat.

You setting boundaries and doing “the 180” on her just might help to turn things around eventually.  Good luck. [/quote]

FYI “setting boundaries” is NOT making a request. It’s not saying Please don’t talk to me that way. And then more arguments continue and escalate into nastiness.

Setting boundaries is: If you continue to raise your voice and attempt to insult me, I will leave the room. We can speak again on the original topic if you wish, but with a 3rd party therapist. I will set the appointment.

And then you follow through.

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