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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean when you say that you can afford it?  Is it like, this is a good chunk of our savings over the last couple of years, but we can afford it?  Or is it like, if I pick up some extra work over the next couple of weeks, that will pretty much cover the cost?  [/quote]

OP here. We can afford it meaning that it is expandable income. All of our accounts are covered and this money is pretty much to do with however we please. We often end up putting it into savings. Our annual HHI is 275k. Not rich but we earn enough to be comfortable. [/quote]

I thought your HHI was higher than this.  This sounds like a pretty high percentage of your disposable income.

It sounds to me like you and your wife need to come up with some kind of real budget and plan for your financial future.  If you want to save the money is it for the child’s college, or to retire earlier, or to buy a new car in a few years, or for a vacation?  
If you don’t have a lot of expenses, and a good portion of your income isn’t earmarked for anything, you are going to have these same arguments over and over again.  
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OP here. We live off my salary even though she works. We made a decision when we married that we will live off my salary and put her salary into savings. We still live below my salary and a good amount of disposable income left.

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Then let this go.  Building a family is expensive.  Maybe you could have shaved this down to $3k instead of $6k.  Is the difference of $3k really worth this angst when you have a good amount of disposable income available each month?[/quote]

OP here. I said the amount wasn’t the main issue. It’s the not telling me after she made a big deal about my purchase and set a budget and authorization that upset me. [/quote]

She’s inconsistent. Pregnant women are crazy. Life isn’t fair.  I’m not sure what you’re looking for here, op.  Y’all need to work together better.  She shouldn’t have gotten so upset about the glider, and you shouldn’t be so upset about the nursery furniture. Sometimes a “yes, dear” can go a long way to solving a problem in a marriage.   [/quote]

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