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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Np. 45 year old here, two kids, together about 25 years. I used hormonal birth control and wasn’t ever really a fan then went off it and had trouble getting pregnant so between kids we used condoms until we were open to an “oops” and then actively were trying (over a year). We then used condoms for another tow years. When DH got vasectomy (he agreed with the logic that I’d carried the kids and done the birth control that long, and that tubal ligation is more involved) sex became (a) more comfortable (b) more spontaneous and (c) more appreciative that my partner was involved in family planning. I think it really helped our sex life. While there are no grantees, that can be an argument for it. I will note I used to think 3 kids would be nice but DH knew that he never wanted more than two so even if I were out of the picture he didn’t envision wanting more kids. [/quote]

Yeah, you touch on it with the “no guarantees,” but I really wouldn’t sell this as helping your sex life or anything else that will increase quality or frequency. That could even be your intention, but married life is married life, and you’ll hit menopause and you’re done. Better to frame as necessary, not sufficient, and emphasize the no future guarantees, especially with interest almost certainly to decline to nil on your part.[/quote]

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