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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have four close in age.  The oldest was 5 when the youngest was born.  [b]None of them changed their sibling’s diapers, but I would definitely say that they help with parenting in that they monitor each other’s behavior and speak up if someone says something rude or uncaring.[/b]  It’s one thing to have your mom tell you that girls won’t like it if you don’t brush your teeth before school.  It’s another thing to have your sister say it.  They also help each other with homework and with generally keeping the routine of the household.  
We do have one with ASD, and I probably would do more for him if he was my only child.  But I also think he would have no real friends and no teenage chats into the night if it weren’t for his brothers and sister. [b] I also don’t think anyone would call him out for being a jerk.  [/b]Because sometimes he is.  
I don’t know.  I like having 4, and I think it’s easier in some ways.  It is definitely more cooking and laundry though.  There are no two ways around that.  [/quote]
Kids really don't have the appropriate judgement or perspective to do this appropriately.  I grew up in a family with 4 kids and my parents left us to self police and work out conflicts.  It resulted in a very Lord of the Flies childhood with rampant sibling bullying and abuse. We don't speak as adults because of the deep and permanent wounds that resulted from intense sibling rivalry.  [/quote]
I am one of two and this was the case in my family, too. [/quote]

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