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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Shy/introverted boys need something they can be good at.  It's not always a super social activity - there are lots of sports that are more single effort.  Lots of young men find confidence building themselves up in these areas.  Mountain biking, BJJ, wrestling, weightlifting, outdoor sports in general are all full of introverts.  [/quote]

OP, I agree with the quoted PP, and will also point out that activities don't have to be sports, and there are activities that can help shy/introverted boys learn to socialize. For example, Dungeons & Dragons or Magic: The Gathering or similar games that aren't video games but require more talking/interacting. We moved to the DMV from a smaller town/smaller school when DS started 6th grade, and he was so lonely until he found his tribe playing D&D/MTG. In fact, his counselor set him up with other, similar boys at a lunch table.

He also started rowing in 9th grade, which was great because kids basically don't start rowing until 9th, so they're all on the same level and haven't been playing since they could walk. It really helped expand his social circle as the team was incredibly inclusive and supportive.

I agree with the PP on helping him build resilience by focusing on things other than the bar mitzvah he's not invited to but more generally he sounds like he needs help developing social skills and connections (both inside and outside school). Very common with boys this age.[/quote]

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