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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][img][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’s trying to control things and ensure she ends up with “what she deserves” this time after getting hurt - but can’t admit that for all her plans and schemes and “value” she’s presented through her lifestyle and virtue signaling- her only current option is a divorced guy with a young kid.

OP you may need to realign your self assessment based on what current market value seems to be signaling. [/quote]

OP here - I’m actually meeting plenty of childless men in their 40s. Just haven’t met the one I would be equally attracted to.  This is one of the reasons I’m wary going into this current situation with the single dad. He has a child, I already met his friends, and it just makes the whole thing more ethically difficult for me to navigate. I do realize the moral responsibility for giving him a sense of relationship, with all other life commitments that he has. [/quote]

Op, as long as you are honest, I won’t give you a hard about the morals of anything you are doing.

But you do strike me as quite a drama queen. If you don’t want to be a step mother but want to share house in a couple years, why would you even entertain dating a guy with young kids?[/quote]

We parted ways originally (partly because of the reasons above - I wanted to keep dating).  But  then he reconnected and pursued me, it started feeling right when he’s around [/quote]

You didn’t mention that you dated before. Have you slept with him? Again- reassess your market value if this is the best you can pull. [/quote]

We went out for couple dates, didn't "date". I get you are set on assigning market values etc., and appreciate your concern. The fact I have an ongoing demand from empty nesters or childless men within 5 years of my own age gives me a good understanding of my options. My previous relationship was with an empty nester 50yo man with grad degree and all the boxes checked. But human feelings is not the same thing as checking out the boxes. [/quote]

Wait- you had a long term marriage and have been dating a year and have dated this guy before and maybe now again and you’ve had ongoing  relationships (the 50 year old empty nester) in that year? You are indeed a busy bee. Sounds like you’re very thirsty.[/quote]

I divorced a few years ago, but didnt actively date during separation and a year post divorce. Physical relationships were with 2 people and all fall within 1.5 year period of active dating. I don't think this is unreasonable or in any way "thirsty". It's not nearly close to what would men do post divorce, sleeping with 10 women in one year. But I meet on average 2-3 men in RL weekly, eg. close to a hundred a year[/quote]

So in 18 mos you met two different men, dated them and slept with them and had “relationships” while also dating 100 other men?

Do you not work,
OP? I mean- what you’re describing is a full time job. It takes so much time to swipe and match and set up 2-3 dates a week while also building those two relationships and sleeping with those guys.

That’s the only reason I said you sound thirsty. You approach dating like a profession. I’m largely happy on my own so just can’t summon the energy to chat
Up that many men, or swipe for that
Long. [/quote]

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