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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not OP-
[b]But it sounds like the 30K would mean be hears that she is stressed, understands that she wants to downshift, and is willing to step up to take off some of the emotional and financial load. [/b]

Other options that would also help would be downsizing to the rental property they already own

Or him finding a financial planner who shows how they can maximize their current situation so they can reach shared goals without OP having to overwork to make 75% of the household income.

Or marriage counseling so they can feel like partners.

OP I think a therapist is a great idea. Have you talked to a lawyer or financial  planner on your own? Are you on mediation for anxiety? Does your OB know you are struggling? Do you have a doula or local support? [/quote]

Yes exactly. Thank you for understanding. 
30k more would mean being very close to being able to live on his income, definitely so if we moved to the rental house.

That would be the difference between me stressing about getting fired and me being at peace because I know we’re ok if I am out of work, and it would mean me not feeling ALONE in that stress.

And I am aware that a well paying remote role is the dream for many. I don’t think these people understand what sales is like. It’s every day on the chopping block even when many/most of the things that can impact your performance are completely out of your control. Evidently I happen to be very talented at it, which is why I made it this far, but I do NOT have the mental constitution to keep doing it. Call me a loser if you want. It’s just the truth. This past quarter one of my large deals pushed to April, I had Covid, and I’m 3 months pregnant. The stress of having to push through complete exhaustion to show my leadership I was doing everything I could to ram this deal through to the finish line (and then still failing) almost broke me. I do not want to live like this. Last year I got laid off from a different role and was VERY fortunate to find a new one quickly with a competitor. MANY people I know got laid off and have been out of work for over a year.[/quote]

Sorry, third trimester, 7 months pregnant. [/quote]
So is it 3 months, 7 months or 32 weeks (8 mons)? Can't keep your story straight?[/quote]

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