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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a mean toxic SIL who has always been icy and rude to me to the point where she makes mean comments to my face and bullies me.

I don’t understand what I did to her. Then I searched DCUM and realize this is a common trope. Why are SILs so unpleasant? [/quote]

In- laws are always a touchy situation.  They’re not friends they’re not really family.  It takes a lot of patience and social skills to make it work.

I obviously don’t know your situation but in my situation my sil clearly feels excluded and bullied but it’s really a function of how sensitive she is.  For example, my mom invited my brother over for a family dinner.  This conflicted with some kind of girls night out my sil was having.  When it was suggested that  my brother could come over with just  the kids the sil freaked out.  She concocted a scenario that we were try to split them up and that my mom picked the night because she knew the sil couldn’t make it.  Which is insane as there’s no way mom knows her social calendar.

Things like this has come up a couple of times and as a result the family doesn’t really like her.  Which she picks up on and the cycle becomes ever more vicious.

My solution with my in laws is to just be committed to kindness and to overlook slights.  It’s worked and we have a reasonably good relationship.  [/quote]

Wait hold up did your mom really try to invite your brother to a family dinner excluding his wife the mother of her grandchildren and the most important family member in her son’s life and then have the audacity to label it a family dinner when she excluded one of the members of her son’s immediate family.

I can see why your SIL feels excluded that’s literally the definition of excluded.

Once married it’s incredibly rude for your mother to invite your brother over and tell him his wife isn’t invited. What the hell!? They are married.[/quote]

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