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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In all this, I wonder what DH's opinion is. [b]It doesn't sound like OP is ever going back to work, and taking time to decompress is just a way of saying she's done. [/b]Has DH actually discussed this with his mom and she's being the bad guy for him? Where does their retirement savings stand? 529s? And God forbid if the ILs helped fund 529s or anything else for them if now DIL is not working.

Is it any of MIL's business? No. But there is basically some information missing here.[/quote]
I agree. Lol @ OP calling it "Decompressing" and not working "right now". She can't even own her situation and tries to minimize it.

Also to point out: She worked all the time and values that in a person so I imagine [b]my choosing not to work is foreign and lazy for her to comprehend.[/b]

This is really it. She just cant comprehend it. [/quote]

I think you're reading a lot into this situation. She can't even "own" her situation! Why does anyone need to? LIVE AND LET LIVE BAYBEEEEEEE[/quote]
She literally stewed about this and then sent a nasty email to MIL LOL
Shes very insecure about it. Women who are happy with their choices dont do that. Dont feel the need to do that. Shes lying to herself and an anon forum even in her OP. It's really sad, because she has a great situation IMO. [/quote]

Hi! I'm the OP and feel good about my choice, but not great about someone calling me a sadsack. It was inappropriate and has nothing to do with how I feel about not working. [/quote]
Do you? Why did you get so defensive then? Why did you stew over it and send an email much later? Why are you still "fuming"? 
If you felt secure this would be water off a ducks back. Sorry but your reaction and the way you phrase your OP say otherwise. [/quote]

I got defensive because I was called a sadsack and it was inappropriate. I would tell my kids not to call other people names. It's impolite.[/quote]

Your last post reminds me of my Ex who would never talk about the elephant in the room or answer people's questions. 
It was partly due to slow processing speed, aspergers, wanting to please everyone, and not wanting to talk about anything except the weather or the news.

His solution was to deflect, escalate and get the other person aggravated by riddles and silence. They'd ask nicely again. They'd point out they needed to stay on task. They ask again. More riddles and deflections. Then by the 7th time the person would say something about the rudeness or neglect or say You're Being an XYZ. Bingo! He got you. THen he'd start an argument about how bad you are and you name-call.  All to save him from answering a normal question! He pissed of many people over the years and ruined many relationships doing this.[/quote]

That’s a whole lot of projection. Usually if someone does not want to share and make it clear the polite thing is to back off. [/quote]

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