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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there are a few things to take into account.

The bike wheel was obviously dirty. Who knows where the biker had been riding.  The lady kept moving the wheel and the guy kept putting it back touching her. Personal space violation should not be tolerated.

I was always told that if your clothes are dirty, people will think you are dirty and disrespect you. Maybe she was concerned about this. There was a post a back in GP about how minority children are viewed differently when dressed down or having dirt on their clothes than white children http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/192529.page .

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We can all agree that what he did was rude and gross. But it's still not a big deal until you throw the feeling of being disrespected into the mix. Maybe she was being disrespected and he wouldn't have done it to a white woman but who knows? She didn't know that and she overreacted. [/quote]

What in the OP's story makes you think the woman overreacted?[/quote]

The first time she spoke to the biker she spoke loudly enough to be heard by men across the isle and she threatened to kick the bike. [/quote]

Yes, I (white woman - late 30s) would CERTAINLY not have reacted this way.  I would have been annoyed by the bike being between my legs - DEFINITELY -- but I would have said something along the lines of, "I'm so sorry, but do you think you could move your bike?"  And I'd assume he was clueless about how it was in my space.  This would annoy me, yes, but I'd NEVER then say, "If it happens again, I am going to kick your bike."  Oh my Lord!!! This is way, way, way over the top.  Umm, talk about not "turning the other cheek"?  Why oh why woulkd anyone say this, thinking that it would that make matters BETTER (?), if someone is bothering you, to then turn around and do something violent to them? On PURPOSE?  When the first thing was an ACCIDENT?  This seems totally out of line to me, and yes, it seems stereotypically "angry black lady."  Good GRACIOUS!!!!  I think that is why the other people then sort of tried to be nice to him, to show solidarity like, "Yikes, that crazy lady went all crazy on you.  It's not you.  It's her."

That is my take on the situation, now having read it.   [/quote]

You are also a perpetrator of "lack of benefit of the doubt" when it comes to black people. The OP stated that:
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A white guy got on the train with a bike and stood in front of the lady and had his bike angled so that his front wheel was in between her legs and every time the train stopped or he moved his bike it kept bumping into the lady's legs.[b]
[u]The first couple of times the lady was bumped by the wheel the lady just moved the wheel off of her and angled the wheel in another direction so that it would stop touching her but every time the guy kept angling the steering wheel back to the original angle pointing to inbetween the womans legs.[/u][/b][/quote]

This is aggression on the biker's part. The lady tried to be sympathetic to his cluelessness, but he ignored the signs and continued to be an asshole with his bike.

When she brought it to his attention, his response wasn't "Sorry about that". Instead, it was "Calm down". Do you seriously not see how this is a problem? IMO, this was not an angry black woman, but rather a self-important privileged white man. [/quote]

Yep, I wouldn't view it as aggression or ass-holeyness on the biker's part.  I would view it as, "We're all doing the best we can in a tight environment on the Metro."  That is why I think she overreacted.  And the other riders clearly thought along those lines too (including the biker) which is why he said, "CAlm down," b/c she appeared to overreact.  [/quote]

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