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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][twitter][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe this works if you’ve got really average and unremarkable daughters who are super good at domestic tasks? Like I wouldn’t close it off as a path for a girl without other options.[/quote]

Why do you say “like” so much?  (It’s obvious you have posted more than once in this thread.) Do you think it makes you seem, like, remarkable?  Although I suppose I AM remarking on you, so well played.[/quote]

Actually that was my first post and the “like” is meant to be read ironically, since this is such a patently misogynistic idea that truly could— or should— only appeal to the sort of parent who looks at their child and thinks they have very little to offer beyond menial tasks and service.[/quote]

Why do you consider taking care of children, cooking, and cleaning to be “menial tasks”?  As opposed to sitting at a desk making powerpoints, for example.

I maintain that YOUR attitude is what is “patently misogynistic”.[/quote]

+1. I hate feminist women who look down on women who are homemakers. Isn’t feminism about women having a choice and choosing what works for them?

I don’t see anything wrong I’m providing a loving home for your family and raising kids. [/quote]

Where do you get the idea that feminism means you have to look up to all women? Do you look up to sex workers? Pole dancers? No? Then why do you think people need to look up to you?[/quote]

Maybe because stay at home moms are nothing like sex workers?  What a silly analogy.[/quote]

Pick whatever you want. You obviously don’t admire accomplished professional women— why do you need them to admire you?

I don’t want my daughter to grow up to be a sex worker — and apparently neither do you— but that doesn’t make me less of a feminist.[/quote]

DP but this is just such a stretch.  PP called “feminists” out for looking down on women who make the choice to stay at home.  You’re trying to suggest that means she wants you to “admire” her which is not equivalent, just like sex workers and SAHMs aren’t equivalent.  Nothing about this argument makes sense. [/quote]

She said she doesn’t want her choices looked down on.  That’s not something feminism gives you. It gives you the freedom to [i]make[/i] a choice.

If you choose sex work/only fans, I don’t think you should go to jail, but i don’t think it’s an admirable me choice or something I would raise my daughter to aspire to.

If you choose to be a “tradwife” think you should have that choice— but I don’t have to admire that choice. Feminism doesn’t mean people won’t look down on you for the choices you make.[/quote]

Not looking down on people isn’t the same thing as not admiring them.  No, I wouldn’t look down on sex workers either.  [/quote]

To be very specific I don’t look down on the poster for [i]being[/i] a “tradwife”. I look down on her for looking at her child and thinking she’s not capable of more. [/quote]

I’m with the PP but feel free to “look down” on homemakers. No woman is going to go back to the workforce because you have a strong opinion about her life.[/quote]

Nor is woman going to give up sex work because I have a strong opinion about her life. Or drug addiction. Or gambling.

But if someone said “I’m raising my daughter to be a porn star” I would look down on her parenting, too.

I do think raising children— boys and girls— to be able to support themselves without going into a job they hate is very valuable. We teach our kids lessons about financial responsibility and frugality and living within their means and having the opportunity to make money work for them so they have greater freedom.[/quote]

You do you.  Your comparison of sex work and stay at home parenting is very very convincing![/quote]

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