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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most cultures have inter generational homes and don't consider it "failure to launch." Also, you don't have as much control over your kids as you think. Your kids may end up a big mess no matter what a great job you did raising them. What are you going to do then, kick them to the curb?[/quote]

Many cultures who do this are a mess. People should be able to be independent or at least contributing to their own livelihood for half of their life at least. [/quote]

What cultures are you referring?  The US was like this until the 1950s when the idea of the nuclear family (mom, dad and 2.3 kids living on their own) took on a life of its own.

You now read stories of the family “compound” coming back because the cost of housing, childcare and elder care is so expensive.

Usually, this is parents building an ADU where children come live, or the parents move into the ADU and the kids take over the house.  Parents able to help with childcare and know they have family close by if they have an emergency.

This set up usually doesn’t involve kids never leaving…but maybe they are single until their 30s and everyone agrees the arrangement makes a ton of sense.[/quote]

Italy for one. Mom doing the son's laundry and meals into their 40's while they play and date around. Their economy is tanking.[/quote]

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