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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s weird your FIL doesn’t understand the kids woukd like something tangible at Xmas.

How hard would it be to put in a $25 or $50 amazon card.

Hey kids I’ve made more contributions to your college fund for your future. I know you wont need that till you’re 18. So please buy yourself something fun from Amazon too.

Just hold back $50 bucks contribution and get gift cards. That’s a much nicer thing to do and the kids look forward to their Amazon gifts too.

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Agree but the kid has no manners. He might have even scoffed at $50.[/quote]

DP. There's no reason to think that based on what was described. It's very strange to give a teenager an empty card. Very. I'm not saying the kid handled it well. But the adults here didn't, either. And I expect more from them.[/quote]

Gifts are just that—gifts. FIL could have given them diddly-squat and it wouldn’t be “strange”.[/quote]

The simple reality is that it isn't irrational, nor does it make you a bad person, to expect Christmas gifts from close family members, assuming you celebrate Christmas. A college find contribution isn't a conventional gift. It would be like the grandfather giving his adult child a cash gift with a stipulation that it needed to be deposited in an IRA. He could do that, and it would be generous. But it would also be weird.

If you do weird things, then you're going to sometimes get weird, and perhaps even inappropriate, reactions.[/quote]

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