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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I went out on a second date with a woman yesterday . First date was good. Second date conversation was great. At dinner she didn’t eat much of her food, I assumed maybe she didn’t like it. We tasted each others dishes and I liked hers. Since she didn’t eat much I asked if I could have more, and she said sure. Today she texts to smash she’s no longer interested. Since the convos been awesome I asked why, and she said cause I ate her food! I pointed she didn’t eat much and that I asked and she said ok. She said she wasn’t hungry but wanted to take it to go. Am I a jerk?[/quote]

You accidentally foiled her plan that's why she couldn't tell you "No." And then she got pissed when you basically negated the entire reason she went out with you that night.

You see, she really wasn't that into you after the first date but decided to give you a 2nd chance to see if you'd improve. She ate dinner beforehand (in case the date went bad) and intended to take home this meal to eat the next day. Her reasoning is something along the lines of: "Hey, if the date sucks at least I'll get a decent meal to bring home for later this week."

Had she said "No you can't eat my food, I'm bringing it home" then she would look like a user. And to this woman, appearances are very important to her feelings of self-worth.

Now, housing down someone else's meal is kinda weird. Let's be frank - you're a bit awkward. It's one thing to have a couple bites, but it sounds like you joined the Clean Plate Club twice that night. So that's a bit of a red flag.

But in the grand scheme of things, what she did is a lot worse IMHO. It's pretty clear that her intentions were to take home a meal on your dime. If she's not that hungry, the polite thing to do is order an appetizer or a salad for dinner.

I'm honestly giggling at this entire scenario, because you accidentally made the right strategic move. Had you recognized her plan at the time and then purposely ate her food, you'd be a smart dude. But you kind of bumbled your way into ruining her plan, so that makes me Team No One. [/quote]
Not OP, but I love this analysis and I think you are correct :) 
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